Here we will be talking about how to keep a wife happy. Married couples who are having financial difficulties can also have marital problems if the partners do not pay attention to keeping the relationship healthy. In this article I will give you advice on how to keep your wife happy in this troublesome time.
If you are one of the many people who are going through a turbulent time financially (or otherwise) right now, how are you dealing with it? Here is some advice about how to get through any kind of turbulent times and not lose your love or your life at the same time.
Money and possessions are nice to have, but we all know what is the most important parts of our life. The most important thing is to be happy and to be happy, you need to love and be loved.
The really important parts of your life then are your wife, your family, and your friends. These are all relationships that are the keystone of who and what you are.
Step one in getting through turbulent times is to remember the importance of the relationships. Don’t take your frustrations out on the ones you love and the ones who love you. Remember that to have a happy life is to have a happy wife (trite but true!).
Keep things in perspective. Money is money. A roof over your head is important, but having the love of your life beside you throughout it all is even more important.
No one knows what is going to happen, not the media, not the financial gurus on Wall Street, not the psychics, or even the president of the United States or Prime Ministers of any of the Commonwealth nations.
You are on life’s journey and it is an adventure that you cannot always control. You might have to go with the flow for awhile. And isn’t it better to go with others than doing it alone? One of my friends said the following:
“My first husband and I went through a time in our lives when we almost lost our whole business and the employees and contractors that were working for us, all the equipment and the contracts. We were down to the final days in our house before repossession.
I literally watched my husband’s hair turn gray. I watched the lines appear on his face. (Don’t ask me, I wasn’t watching my face, but that’s probably when I started acquiring lines on my face too!)
It was a long climb for us but we did manage to climb out of the financial crisis. I tell you this so that you know I have been there in the past and have FELT what it feels like.”
So how do you keep yourself from exploding at the family? How do you keep yourself sane when all about you, others are going mad? How do you keep your wife and family happy in such times?
Here are some tips. Put them into action in your life:
12 Ways On How To Keep Your Wife Happy:
1). Don’t React To Situations:
When something is said or done that causes a reaction within you, stop. Before you respond, take several deep breaths. Count to 15. Visualize the big picture. Visualize the loving relationship that you have with this person.
Give yourself time to choose your response, rather than reacting without thinking. If you need to tell the other person that you need time, say “Just a minute.” Or use the famous line by John Cage from the TV show Ally McBeal: “I need a moment.”
2). Take Up A Physical Sport:
Take up a physical sport that you do daily or at least 3 times a week. What about jogging? Jogging doesn’t cost money! Anything that requires physical exercise is good for you at a time like this. It could be shoveling snow or digging holes in your garden!
3). Do Karate:
Take up Tai Chi, Kung Fu, or any other of the martial arts and takes into consideration the holistic you. Tai Chi is a physical exercise that focuses the mind, while conditioning the body. Practicing twenty minutes a day dissipates stress and reduces stress-related debilities, increases stamina, and strengthens the body and will.
4). Don’t Drink Caffeine:
Give up caffeine. Really! It helps you keep calm all day and evening. And helps you sleep.
5). Vent Privately:
If you have the urge to hit someone, pick up something soft and throw it as hard as you can at the floor, wall or ceiling. Don’t aim it at anyone.
6). Have Someone You Can Talk To:
Have a friend that you can talk out your problems with – whether it be your wife, another man, or your sister. Perhaps a counselor or a coach. When people discuss the things that are bothering them and get another’s input into the situation they are able to deal with anything in a much stronger way.
7). Always Be Balanced To A Point:
Remember to balance your life. The important rule for you now is to take on what you can handle and not to over extend yourself. Find the balance. Don’t take on more than you can manage, especially in times of stress.
Draw back with your commitments and look after yourself and your family first. Don’t pressure yourself to achieve more than you can handle.
You may have to learn how to say “no” to committees, organizations and friends. At least until you have your life back in control. Help others. Helping others takes the stress and focus off of your own problems and helps you feel good about yourself.
8). Remember This Is Life:
Remember to take time to play and to laugh. Laughter is a natural de-stresser and can increase your immune system and improve your physical health. It can also make you a person that other people enjoy being around.
9). Pay Attention To The Music In Your Life:
Pay attention to the music that you put on your iPod. Have one play list that is relaxing, de-stressing music that you can pop into your ears when you need to find a calm moment. Have another playlist that gets you up and dancing when it is time to play.
11). Be Super Active:
Be proactive. Create a lifestyle that doesn’t tax your resources. Do what you need to at work and at home that shows your leadership ability and your ability to solve problems – no matter how big or how small. Give yourself little victories every day.
12). Always Be Compassionate:
Remember to say “I love you” whenever you can. Get that kiss and hug. Find something to make you and your spouse or family laugh each day and that you know will keep your wife happy. Remember to enjoy life throughout the hardships.
Follow the tips above, and it will change your life for the better. If you really put her first, it will change everything. If she is happy then you will be also. You’re with this person always so make the best of it.